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Atticus Harris - Moderator for Hearsay No1


One Of The Platitudes That Haunts Me Is That ‘Change Is A Good Thing’. I Can’t Help But Wince When I Hear That Because Despite Knowing It, I’ve Spent A Lot Of Time Avoiding It. I’ll Slow Down The Process Of Changes I’m Not Sure About And Slam The Brakes On Changes I Don’t Want To Happen. Life Has No Time For This Kind Of Bullshit. You Either Accept The Fact That Things Change, Or They End Up Changing Anyway.

At The End Of 2017, It Became Clear That I’d Probably Lose My Job. The Thought Of Looking For Another One Made Me Anxious. I Spent Two Weeks Deliberating If I Should Update My CV. I Tentatively Browsed Job Openings. I Thought A Lot About The Idea Of Leaving But Did Little To Start The Process. I Was Scared About What Lied On The Other Side Of That Decision. Choosing What To Watch On Netflix Was An Easier Decision And, More Often, The One I Made Instead.

This Happens All The Time: A Change Is Imminent And Scary. It Can Be A Change Of Job. The End Of A Relationship. The Breaking Of An Old Habit. Moving To A New Country. Starting To Get Fit After A Long Period Of Inactivity. It Doesn’t Matter What It Is. What’s Always The Same Is That You’re Afraid Of What Life Will Be Like Afterwards.

I’m Going To Go Out On A Limb Here And Guess I’m Not The Only One Who Suffers From This Every Now And Then. Why Do We Try To Hold On To Stuff When We Know That Change Would Be A Good Or Even Healthy Thing To Do? I Think It’s Because We’re Scared A Lot Of The Time. We’re Programmed To Avoid The Things We Fear. Things That The Most Basic Components Of Our Brain Compute As Dangerous. Lizard Brain Takes Over And We Freeze. Rather Than Deal With The Situation In A Balanced And Constructive Manner, We Stall. Then It’s 2 Am And We Find Ourselves On The Couch Eating Doritos And Coke In The Middle Of A Netflix Binge.

At School, I Used To Have Friends That Would Only Get Down To Work At The Last Minute. When The Deadline Was Looming They’d Go Into Panic Mode And Thrash It Out. It’s The Same Thing. It’s Lizard Brain Telling You To Wait As Long As Possible. Until You Realise That If You Don’t Act Now Then Things Will Get Out Of Hand.

This Is A Wholly Unsatisfying Way To Live Your Life. Lizard Brain Is All About The Fight Or Flight Response. Flight Is That Netflix Binge And Huge Dominos Bill You Racked Up Last Month. Fight Is The Fact You Managed To Stay Up 24 Hours In A Row And Bash Out A Half Decent Essay Just In Time. I’ll Point Out Now That Fight Or Flight Doesn’t Bring Out The Best In People. It Might Help You Survive, But It Won’t Help You Thrive.

My Problem With Change Throughout My 20s Is That I’ve Often Defaulted To The Flight Response. My Instinct Has Been To Get As Far Away From The Changes I Needed To Make As Possible. Making The Change That I Need To Usually Involves Effort And Commitment. In The Past, I’ve Figured That Maybe I Was Just Too Lazy To Put In The Effort. That Might Be Part Of It But It’s Not The Whole Story. There Are Other Areas Of My Life Where I’m Capable Of Putting In Bucket Loads Of Energy To Make Things Happen. So Recently I’ve Taken A Different Angle On Why Change Can Be So Difficult. And It Boils Down To A Lack Of Vision.

Have You Ever Noticed That The People We Champion Most Are Often The Ones Who Have The Strongest Visions? Martin Luther King, Emily Pankhurst, Steve Jobs, Michelle Obama. All These People Had A Clear Idea Of How The World Needed To Change. That’s Why We Call Them Visionaries. Now I Don’t Need To Have A Vision As Grand As Martin Luther King To Change The Fact I’ve Got Too Much Fat Around My Belly. But If I Can’t Believe In The Idea That I’ll Be 10 Kilos Lighter In 3 Months Time, Then It’s Never Going To Happen.

Back To The Job Hunt For A Moment. I Finally Began To Update My CV And Send Off Applications. I Got Some Responses And Was Invited To A Few Interviews. The More Conversations I Had, The More I Became Comfortable With The Idea That Change Might Be For The Best. I Could See An End Game And I Liked How It Might Look. These Situations Tend To Gain Momentum. The More Change You Make The More Things Tend To Come Together For You. I Got A New Job. And By The End Of It All, I Had Convinced Myself That It Was All Part Of My Master Plan In The First Place. Ok, That Last Bit Isn’t True But The Idea Is A Good One. The More We Own The Process Of Change, The More Empowered We Are As Individuals.

We Need Some Kind Of Vision To Make Positive Change Happen. An Idea Of How Things Could Be Different. And I Think That Gets At The Heart Of Why Change Can Be So Powerful But Also So Difficult. When We Have A Lack Of Vision, And Change Keeps Moving Forward Regardless, We Run Into Problems. We’re Subjected To Change And We’re Powerless As A Result. But When We Can Envisage Change, We Make It Our Own. We’re Empowered By The Process. Even If We Can’t Steer The Change Completely. Once We Have An Idea Of What The Change Will Be, We Can Decide How We Want To Respond To The Shifting Landscape.

There Is A Recipe For Success Here. It Starts With Formulating An Idea Of How You Want Things To Be Different. Or How You Will React To Changes That Are Happening Around You. It Doesn’t Involve Letting Lizard Brain Stall You. Because It Will If You Give It A Chance. Instead, We Should Take The Time To Reflect And Make Choices From A Position Of Power. And If It Helps Speed Things Up, Cancel That Netflix Subscription And Throw Those Doritos In The Bin. It’s A Small Step, But You’ll Realise That A Change Has Already Started To Happen.

 
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